Fun-filled, traumatic, joyous, troublesome, boring, cruel, pleasing, satisfying, challenging, tempting, misleading - yes Life is full of 'em - that is why life is so very SPECIAL - and yet the thrill is in "living" life! And all the accompanying ordeals are the frills attached with the thrills.

Monday, November 14, 2005

My! My!! (Part-1)

Seeing the recent fuss being made over Kushboo's remarks to a magazine, I cannot consider these agitations as anything more than cheap publicity. I didn't know, initially, if it would make sense to write a post on this but now with Suhasini being dragged into it and the Nadigar Sangam asking for an explanation from her, I deemed it appropriate to post about it now. Anyways, sex is not a taboo anymore. Ofcourse, these opinions are my own and I am entitled to them and you, in your own right can object to them! [Also, apologies, if my post seems outright crude and point blank - couldn't help it!]

The Background : India Today had conducted a survey and found that certain percentage of teenage girls have had pre-marital sex. When asked for Kushboo's comments on this, she said that its only advisable that girls have safe sex and that educated men should not expect their future wives to be virgins anymore. To this, a section of the public objected strongly (probably instigated by some political parties) saying that Kushboo's remarks were against Tamilnadu's culture and that she should apologise or be banished from Tamilnadu.

My view to this :
First, aren't people entitled to their opinions and views, well, atleast when the opinions are generic and not specifically intended towards any particular person or group. In that case, Kushboo's remarks are certainly general and not intended for any specific person or group.

Is pre-marital sex new to our culture? There have been many works in Tamil where eroticism has been depicted with subtle details between lovers - obviously between lovers who weren't married. What about the story of Kunthi who bore Karna? Ofcourse, people would only want to circumvent pre-marital sex considering the negative consequences it would create but given the situation we have today, the next best thing you can advise people who give in to the 'temptation' is to be safe. Isn't this (unprotected sex) the reason why we see so many babies being abandoned in dustbins, numerous cases of teenage pregnancy and still worse girls/women ending their lives?

Coming to the second point about men not to expect their wives-to-be to be virgins (2 many 'to-be's huh??), I think it would be apt to debate on 'virginity'. I read somewhere that Periyar once said that women should throw off their karpu. He went on to add that "Its only because of this that men domineer you. Throw it off and there will be nothing to thrust their control upon you women folk". People hailed Periyar then as a champion of women. His words definitely made sense - but the same people who worship him for being a rationalist, cannot seem to accept a similar view from Kushboo.

(To be continued...)


Viewer said...

Thanks Man ! will try the clove thing for sure during the nxt attack ;) As for nwo I am doing good and fine

வேதா said...

i have already written abt this when the incident started.when a magazine has a right to survey premarital sex(which ofcourse was held for their own commercial values)are not public entitled to say their views.the irony is that the people who agitated against this comment did not oppose the magazine(u must have seen the issue,the cover photo and every visual inside the magzine were disgusting,it degraded my views abt that magazine).the issue was certainly used as a tit for tat against kushboo going against it is unavoidable for them to raise voices against suhasini jus bcos they have started the issues.i jus want to yell at these politicians"damn with u and go to hell"
one thing i want to clear that kunti did not bear karna due to premarital sex,it is a myth that says when she jus chanted some mantra and lord surya appeared and blessed her with a child.

Ravi said...

Viewer, you are welcome!

Veda, thanks for your comments and I guess I missed the point while mentioning about Kunthi. The reason why I quoted Kunthi was to highlight how there is a story in our mythology about bearing a child out of wedlock and then having to abandon it. Maybe the 'sex' part isn't there but there is similarity to today's cases where women who become mothers out of wedlock dump their babies in dustbins.

வேதா said...

i agree that there are some women dump their babies born out of wedlock,but they do so bcos they are dumped by men responsible for thing is sure,no woman will do that without a guilty conscience.i am not certainly supporting,what i try to say is that both men and women are equally responsible and they should try to be more responsible.

Ravi said...

I am not debating on the responsibility part but the ultimate victim is the child. This could have well been avoided had the 'safety' factor been considered. That is my whole point.

வேதா said...

hi ravi,
//This could have well been avoided had the 'safety' factor been considered//
this is what i meant to say.

author extraordinaire said...


nice piece of work you have here!! well written!

Ravi said...

Thanks Preetika, look out for the second part tomorrow. Btw, u changed your blogger identity name?